Hehe.. worth a read, this is.

[skreidle]

What's up with US women?

(Or, why "The Rules" are "Ridiculous". But we all knew that.)

(Thanks to strwbrylv for the link. :)

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[jestf14.livejournal.com]

I've been saying that very same thing for years now.

[shariperkins.livejournal.com]

This is bullshit one-oh-one!

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

The sad thing, though, is that there are plenty of women who've been following these Rules for years and years.. what's worse is the published books of "The Rules", and the revised online version of the same. They're terrible, really.. work quite well at keeping happy couples apart.

[skamille.livejournal.com]

The Rules is sooo awful. A friend got me a copy as a joke for a birthday once. Soo bad.
They *do*, however have a couple decent points. The whole "be your own unique person" thing is always good advice. As is "don't date someone for longer than 2 years if no engagement is forthcoming" (assuming getting married is what you're looking for). But that whole not splitting costs for dates, not returning phone calls, not sleeping with him until 4 weeks in, soooo stupid.

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

Sounds like it.. I'm a big fan of "play it by ear, do what seems reasonable to both of you".

[six2.livejournal.com]

That's what I say and I've been really happy and really lucky for 4 years (as of tommorrow).

And I'm not engaged yet, but that doesn't seem to be a problem for either of us -- we want to be able to have a nice wedding and I want to be able to get a nice engagement ring, but we can't afford that right now. And I think that's okay, because that doesn't mean we're not committed to each other.

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

Sounds like you've done quite well for yourselves.. congratulations and good luck :)

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[six2.livejournal.com]

Well thank ya, I think it helps to have a positive attitude.

[xiaoshira.livejournal.com]

So am I, but there are some overly emotional women like myself that probably depend on these rules not because they believe in them, but as a kind of a "check" so they don't get obsessive. These women often overdo it though, as it sounds like the one in the article did :)

[r-transpose-p.livejournal.com]

Everything I read about male <--> female dating behavior that strikes me as bizzare and evokes a "I don't know anyone who does that!" (or "I don't know any who does that other then Scott R") eventually ends with "In New York City..."

I've decided NYC is just fucked up datingwise. And in completely different ways from the west coast. Out west, women buy men coffee the next morning, a woman with a career is a catch and its Charles Manson / Zodiac Killer types that keep women shy, not a silly book (see skreidle's quoted post of mine -- replace Pointland with an unnamed West Coast city near a tech capital)

From what I've read about NYC, the gender imbalance is backwards of "unnamed West Coast city", noone wants to date successful women, and every woman reads and follows "The Rules" What a strange and alien land.

[r-transpose-p.livejournal.com]

This probably reveals something about my taste in women, but everyone i've dated who's lived for a long time in Colorado has been awesome. 10x more so then residents of "unnamed west coast city" or "hardass engineers at Computer Military University"

I'm extrapolating from 2 examples, but they were both totally smart, take change Annie-Oakley-esque science types.

I should move to Boulder.

[skamille.livejournal.com]

Thanks =P

[r-transpose-p.livejournal.com]

People who dump me don't count in these statistics :P

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

"totally smart, take-charge Annie-Oakley-esque science types"

..yeah, that sounds like my cousin Sarah, who lives in Boulder. :)
Wonder from whence this correlation springs?

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

Just as well I don't want to live in NYC anyhow, then. :)

[xiaoshira.livejournal.com]

Did you get this link from my post or do we both independently read the Guardian? If you read Guardian, what do you think of it? I only started reading it since I got here to China and only to have something to argue with my British friend about (such as this article) but it's kinda growing on me :), what's your take?

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

Erm.. sorry, forgot to give credit for the link (now present)--I got it from your post. Only read the Guardian when people post links to it :)

[xiaoshira.livejournal.com]

D'oh. Next question - do your friends often post from the Guardian? I'm getting more and more well-versed on British culture, now that I'm in China (weird statement as that is).

[skreidle.livejournal.com]

Only occasionally.. I have one friend who's natively British, some others who're just into the culture, I think.